關於 stood me up意思 ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

用心就是會被看見👍👍👍👍

五年長路，五年收成。
　
電影裡的王船祭典，在網寮村叫「五年到科」。每個久違科年，村人再次搭棚築船。極致的精雕細琢，在最高潮一刻入海化為灰燼，一切復始。
　
曾在祭典的村中稚氣地想著，五年啊，真是漫長；豈料自己的船造了一樣久。代號小船前鋒號肇始的電影，乘載了眾人協力打造的無數精力，終於長成它應有樣子，在昨晚回鄉啟航了。
　
拍的是回鄉，而親身帶著電影經歷回鄉，面對檢視，還是膽怯。首映前夜，即使一切準備就緒，逼著自己就寢，仍在夜裡醒來五六次。直到天色大亮，告訴自己時辰到了，木已成舟（好的意思），該打直腰桿，望不負眾人之力。
　
電影真是有魔力的。當你見到三年前一起經營的情節，終在廳裡逗起人們幾聲輕笑、幾聲嘆息。我瞥見身旁的喜翔哥望著螢幕上自己駕船離去的背影抽了幾下肩膀、隨著《走馬燈》旋律忘情哼了幾句。黑暗中的共感，讓一切依舊著迷也值得。
　
再次地，感謝五年來所有一起完成《蚵豐村》的人們。從最早的踏查、蹲點；2016年早春一起克難拍片的所有團隊；漫長橫跨各國緩慢邊填著資金缺口邊一步步修整完成的後期夥伴；協助讓影片走向國際的 SheeHeng Kuek 和他的 日映影像 aview images ；直到昨天台灣首映幕後功臣： 大島影像 TYDAL Productions的兩位合夥人Lung Wen Lin 和 陳艾琪 、現場協力 陳裕文 Lesley Chien、 以及超罩的攝影 洪綸陽
　
前幾天在影人活動和《狂徒》洪導演聊到，「導演」一詞，其實是個頗狹隘翻譯。要完成一部片，自始而終，囊括的面向實在太多，絕不是「指導表演」這麼簡單。在捷克那些年，我始終喜歡他們的說法：režiser ，「實現者」。
　
實現一部影片，豈止一人之力。謝謝所有身旁一同撞擊、完成所有事物的人們。望我們造出的船，帶大家一起，航向更多更遠的地方。
　
我們銀幕上繼續相見。
　　
A belated harvest.
　
They call the festival 'the five-year cycle' in the village we filmed. At the end of each long-waited cycle, villagers once again construct a wooden ritual ship with extensive decorations, and send it to the shore to be burned at the very climax. As the ship turns into ashes, a new cycle begins anew.
　
I once stood in the mid of the carnival crowd and wondered how long a 5-year period was. Unexpectedly, mine took even longer. Ohong Village, once titled Harvest Season, loaded with all the efforts from numerous people across all these years, finally set sail for its homecoming journey at the Taiwan premiere last night.
　
It's a story about homecoming indeed, but actually taking the film home, is a whole different story. With all the preparations set, I was still anxious with the act of bringing it onstage at home and being examined by all the local crowd - many of them contributors to the film. What's done is done, all you can do is expect that what turns up onscreen live up to the expectations of all those onboard.
　
Movie is indeed magic - when you witnessed how all those plot we carved up three years ago eventually turned into laughters and sighs in the grand dark cinema hall. I saw the leading actor Jieh-Wen King, sitting right next to me, gently sobbed upon seeing his final image as the character on the screen, and lightly singed along with the fading song. The compassion, create by cinema amidst the surrounding darkness, made all the efforts still captivating and worthwhile.
　
Once again, my sincerest appreciation to all of you who made Ohong Village possible throughout this 5-year journey.
　
Among all definitions of the role of a 'director', I favour how we called it there: a režiser, a realiser, someone who make things possible.
　
Yet all this won't be there with just one person. Thank you all for being here. May the ship we build, take us places further.
　
děkujeme/cпасибо/hvala/thank you. #蚵豐村 #OhongVillage

【業力的黑洞】THE BLACK HOLE OF KARMA

（一）

「我不是叫你帶筆記本嗎？」

我看著男客人擺在桌上的那僅僅一張A4紙。

男客人不好意思地說：「我忘了。這是跟櫃台取的。」

「我千里迢迢來到這裡，因為你說你要改命。你就拿這樣一張借來的紙，來改命？一個半小時的看八字，夠你寫嗎？還是你不夠寫時，又要浪費我的時間去借紙？你的認真在哪裡？」

我雙眼直視著男客人的眼睛。

他連忙站起來，去借了多幾張A4紙。

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（二）

「你怎麼帶那麼小的本子？夠寫嗎？」

我不可思議的看著，那如信用卡一般大的記事本。

男客人答：「可以啦！我只寫重點！」

「你這個是懶。我的每一句話都是重點。你的八字在我手上，你是怎樣的人，你不要以為我不知道。你不要跟我瞎掰，更不要有寫沒寫的，然後事後又發私訊重覆性的問回我一樣的問題，因為你沒有用心思寫下來。樓上有書店，要嘛你現在去買，我給你十五分鐘，要嘛我們今天就不看你的八字。你自己選。」

男客人十分鐘內，買了A4本子。

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（三）

我為即將結婚的男客人看新家風水。

他來過我的風水講座數次，閱讀我臉書也有兩年多時間，應該很熟悉我的性格。事前，我提醒過他兩次要帶筆記本，兩次兩次他都跟我說謝謝提醒。

站在客廳看風水時，他抽出那張A4的屋子平面圖，壓在手掌心寫。

「我不是已經叫你帶筆記本嗎？」

他笑笑不語，沒有解釋，沒有道歉。

新家風水那麼重要，關係到你和你家人未來至少五年的興旺，你就在這一張軟綿綿的紙上寫兩個小時的筆記嗎？

以我對客人的要求，我本會叫他到外頭買筆記本，我們才繼續看風水。

但那天，現任屋主還住在那個單位，是特別約好時間讓我們進去看風水，對方也在等著我們完事後就要出門。

想想他過去兩年來常在我臉書貼文按讚，就給他一點面子，讓他在女朋友面前好下台，也算是報答他的支持。

於是，我看在眼裡，記在心裡。依我的經驗，沒把筆記寫好的，必會再來問我。

幾天後，他來訊詢問。當中有幾個問題，我當天已解說過。

我回他：「我雖不介意回答已經回答過的問題，但如果你那一天有帶筆記本，你必會抄下來。」

也就不用再問。

我也寫道：「我對你有點失望。」

他回我：「我明白也注意到你的失望。以後會更留意自己的念頭和舉止。」

「你應該跟我道歉。你忽視我的善意提醒本就不對。」

也猶如騙了我。如果你當初不想帶，直說，不要以假謝謝敷衍。

男客人過後道歉，也大方的同意我把這件事情寫出來，警惕大家。

如果你的未來註定會坎坷，無論是婚姻、事業、家庭或財富，你要比任何人都更注意你的一舉一動。

因為你細小的念頭，細微的決定，會一步一步引你掉入你命中註定的歹運。

你會漏掉寫下我千交代萬交代的事情。

你會寫錯、聽錯、記錯、做錯。

你身邊的人會影響你，告訴你不要聽我或任何能幫你改命的話，你如何如何讓她他不開心不舒服。

你會有錢也不要出錢，只是一直想博取我的同情，得到免費的幫助，然後稱說自己沒有錢。

你會任性，你會執著，你會覺得風水命理沒那麼厲害，你自己說了算，雖然你根本不怎麼樣。

因為你已變成一個弦线上的小木偶，被你那無情的業力操控著。

我的嚴厲，是要及時拉你一把，不要「青青菜菜」的過活，不要拖累你的家人和你一起遭業報。

不是每個人跌倒後，都能夠爬得起來。

誰不想做好人，讓每個人都喜歡自己？但自古，慈母多敗兒。

在現今社會裡，男人女人的自信，都是來自於事業，但每個人的幸福，都是源自於家庭。

所以千萬千萬不要自私。

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（1）

“Didn't I tell you to bring a notebook?"

I looked at the lonely piece of A4 paper the male client placed on the table.

Slightly embarrassed, the male client said, "I forgot. This was obtained from the counter."

"I come all the way here because you tell me you want to change your destiny. You bring this kind of paper to change your life? My consultation is 1.5 hour and you think it's enough for you to write? Or when you run out of space, are you going to waste my time to go and borrow paper? Where is your seriousness?"

I looked at the male client straight in the eyes.

He hurriedly stood up and borrowed a few more pieces of A4 paper.

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（2）

"Why did you bring such a small notebook? How is it enough for you to write?"

I looked at the credit-card-sized notebook incredulously.

The male client replied, "Can! I only write the important points!"

"This is your sloth. Everything I said is important. Your Bazi is in my hands. Don't think that I do not know what kind of person you are. Don't talk nonsense to me. Don't write selectively and then later send me PMs asking me the same questions that I have answered in this consultation, just because you didn't put in effort to jot it down. There is a bookshop upstairs. Either you go and buy now. I will give you 15 minutes. Or we will cancel today's consultation. You decide."

The male client returned with a brand new A4 notebook in ten minutes.

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（3）

I was doing a Feng Shui audit for a male client who was getting married.

He came to my Feng Shui workshops a few times and have read my Facebook for over 2 years. Prior to the audit, I reminded him twice to bring a notebook and twice, he thanked me for my reminders.

While standing in the living room doing the Feng Shui audit, he drew out a A4-sized floorplan and wrote on it, with his palm as the backing.

"Didn't I already tell you to bring a notebook?"

He smiled back at me. No explanation. No apology.

The Feng Shui of a new home is so important because it determines the future of your family luck for at least the next 5 years. And you are going to write on this floppy piece of paper for the next 2 hours?

Given my expectations of clients, I would have told him to go and buy a notebook before I continued my audit.

But that day, the current owner was still living in the unit. It was by appointment that we were let in to get the Feng Shui audit done. The family was also waiting for us to finish things up, as they were going out.

I thought of the many times that he had Liked my FB posts these two years. So I decided to give him some face, and not make things difficult for him in front of his girlfriend. Also a very tiny way of me thanking him for his support all these while.

Hence, I put this incident in my heart. From my experience, I know that anyone who did not write the notes well will definitely come back to ask me again.

A few days later, he sent me messages, some of which were raising the same questions that I had explained on the day of the audit.

I told him, "While I do not mind answering the same questions again, if you had brought a notebook that day, you would have written it down."

You and I would not need to repeat ourselves again.

I also wrote, "I am slightly disappointed in you."

His reply, "Well noted on your disappointment. Will pay attention to own thoughts/actions for better changes."

"You should apologise to me. It is wrong of you to ignore my reminders to bring a notebook."

This is akin to lying to me. If you do not wish to bring, say it outright. Don't brush me off with perfunctory thanks.

He did apologised later and graciously gave me the permission to write about this, to remind my readers.

If your future is destined to be difficult, be it in your marriage, career, family or wealth, you must be extra observant of your every action and deed.

Because every little thought of yours, every seemingly minor decision you made, will lead you step-by-step to fall into the manhole of your pre-destined bad fortune.

You will miss out on what I repeatedly tell you to do.

You will write wrongly, hear wrongly, remember wrongly and do wrongly.

The people around you will influence you. They will tell you not to listen to me, or any well-meaning advice to transform your destiny. They will say that you doing so is making them unhappy and uncomfortable.

You will be unwillingly to fork out money even when you can afford it. You want to live off the compassion of mine and get free help, on the empty claim that you have no money.

You will be wilful. You will be stubborn. You will think that there is no big deal about Chinese Metaphysics and that what you say matters the most in your life. Despite not having any ability or past achievement to support that fat bold claim.

Because you have already become that little string puppet, being dangled around mercilessly by your negative karma.

My sternness is to pull you away from that manhole of mishaps. Do not live your life in a blur. Do not drag your family down with you to suffer at the hands of karma.

Not everyone can stand up right again, after a really bad fall.

Who doesn't wish to be that well-liked person? But since ancient times, an overly loving mother often leads to a useless son.

In modern society, the self confidence of every man and woman tend to come from his/her career. But happiness and bliss will always come from your family.

So never ever choose to be selfish.

今天看到一則分享
好溫暖、好勵志
獻給正在跌倒、或是即將跌倒的每一位朋友

（偷偷說，版主歌聲好美❤️）

最震撼的一課---美國教室。(English Version below)

星期六早上的芭蕾課在接近尾聲的時候，老師要大家分組一起旋轉、跳躍，以優雅的舞姿穿越教室。一組接著一組，跟著優美的古典樂拍子，無論如何都要面帶笑容、華麗向前。課堂上充滿了各式各樣的學生，8歲金髮女孩、10歲中國裔女孩、12歲南亞裔女孩、23歲韓國女孩、27歲非裔女孩、29歲台妹我本人、35歲金髮男同學、40歲紅髮氣質辣媽、開心慈祥的老太太...等。而老師被稱為「派翠莎女士」則是我所見過學識最淵博、身體超菁壯、經驗特豐富、非常戲劇化、不可思議的幽默、又超級愛八卦的一位六十幾歲金髮女人，習舞超過50年，每天堅持教課六∼八小時。
在最後一組轉圈的時候，那位紅髮辣媽一時失去平衡而跌坐在地，撞出了很大的碰地一聲。她臉紅的攤攤手、難為情的一笑，擺出無可奈何的表情。而我則是立刻別過頭去，不好意思和她對到眼，因為不確定該用什麼樣的表情反應。
這時老師邊搓著雙手、邊喜孜孜地走過來對著她菁英技巧班的女孩們叫道：女孩們，在我們高級技巧班上要是有同學跌倒了我們該怎麼做呢？

這時所有年紀低於16的女孩們一起開心的拍手鼓舞起來，投以愛慕的眼光。

派翠莎女士：沒錯! 我們要拍手叫好，大家一起來! 鼓掌!!

全場一起對著那位跌倒又站起來了的辣媽微笑拍手。

派翠莎女士接著：然後這個時候呢，老師會走到其他女孩們前面，對著著他們說...

邊走邊演，對著班上最努力、最進階的一位美麗女孩，並指著辣媽說：她試過了。她勇於嘗試，冒著可能會摔倒的風險，嘗試更難的動作，為了變得更好、追求進步。

再指著其他的女孩們， 一個個問道: 你們為什麼都不去摔倒? 為什麼不去嘗試? 為什麼不敢冒險? 大家都應該向她學習，我們一起謝謝她這麼認真！

我差點淚崩。

瞬間明白了那些美國同學們臉上一直以來有的那種自信的表情從何而來。那種不管別人眼光、不怕摔倒、不怕失敗、只一心追求自己當下的努力足不足夠的每一個時刻，因為只有自己的努力是重要的，其他什麼都不值得花心思考慮。摔倒表示你在嘗試，嘗試表示你離進步更近，而感到舒服並不會讓你往前任何一點。
我好希望我小時候摔倒的時候有人這樣激勵我，並把它當成一個好的教育機會，讓大家一起更勇於嘗試。不過一切都還不遲，這是我來美國三年學到最震撼的一課。對了，再過兩天就三週年了。只想和大家分享一下，就這樣。

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The most shocking lesson - the American classroom.

At the end of the ballet class on Saturday morning, the teacher asked everyone to spin, jump, and dance through the classroom elegantly. One group after another, following the beautiful classical music tempo, no matter what happens, always smiling, and looking fabulous. The class is full of all kinds of students, 8 year old blonde girl, 10 year old Chinese american girl, 12 year old South Asian american girl, 23 year old Korean girl, 27 year old African american girl, 29 year old Taiwanese moi, 35 years old blonde male classmate, 40-year-oldish red-haired temperament hot mom, happy ladies in their fifties ...etc. The teacher is called "Ms. Patricia", who is a sixty-something blonde, the most knowledgeable woman I have seen with super-strong body, the most experienced in teaching, very dramatic, incredibly humorous, and girl, she loves to gossip. She has also been practicing ballet for more than 50 years, and insisting on teaching for six to eight hours a day.

While the very last group was finishing up their turns, the red-haired hot mom lost her balance and fell to the floor, making a bump. She blushed, and smiled a little embarrassed, making this "Voila" gesture, and then stood up. On the other hand I felt a little embarrassed for her, so I smiled nervously and soon turned my head away because I wasn't sure what kind of expression I should've been reacting.
At this time, the teacher walked over, rubbing her both hands together, looking entertained and glanced at the girls in her elite class. She shouted: Girls, what do we do when someone falls in our tech class?

All the girls under the age of 16 started to clap their hands and show genuine admiration.

Ms. Patricia: That's right! We clap! Everyone come together! Applaud!!

The audience applauded and cheered for the hot mom who stood up after she fell.

Ms. Patricia went on: Usually at this time, the teacher will go to the other girls and say...

Acting while walking over to a beautiful girl who is the most advanced in the class, and pointed to the hot mom and said: she tried. She dared to try, risking the possibility of falling, trying harder moves, in order to become better and making more progress.

Then she pointed to other girls, one by one, asking: Why don't you fall? Why don't you try? Why not taking risks? Everyone should learn from her, and we thank her for trying so hard!

I almost burst into tears.

I instantly understood where the confident expressions that have always been on the faces of American classmates came from. Every single moment, doesn't matter what other people think, do not be afraid of falling, not afraid of failure, and only try to focus on this moment of effort, are you doing enough? Because only your effort is important, and nothing else is worth worrying. Falling means you are trying, trying means that you are closer to progress, and feeling comfortable doesn't let you go any further.

I wished that someone had said something like this to motivate me when I was a child who fell hard and using it as a good educational opportunity to encourage everyone else to try. But nothing is ever too late, this is the most shocking lesson (in the best way) I have learned in the United States after almost three years. By the way, in the next couple of days it'd be three years since I moved from home.
Just wanted to share with you, this.

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